A New Chapter – 10 Things About Divorce
10 things about being divorced:
- Freedom – you can move at your own pace, do things your way, eat the foods you enjoy, take up the whole bed, make decisions best suited to you. Move to another location eg closer to or further away from family. Give yourself permission to experience freedom amongst the other feelings you’ll experience.
- New opportunities – by letting go you open to new possibilities, you can determine your new direction in life.
- Reassess life’s priorities – you will be different having gone through such a journey as divorce, you can reassess what is important to you, valuing your new perspectives.
- Getting to know yourself as you are now – self discovery, what do you enjoy, you’ve grown a lot through the process, don’t assume you are the same person, get to know yourself now, create yourself anew.
- Healing – by draining the grief pool of feelings associated with divorce and the loss of the life you had or wanted, you have the opportunity to heal past hurts, resulting in you being more whole and healed. Give yourself permission for the healing process to take as long as it takes – just stick with it.
- Opportunities for growth – the courage you will engage in getting through this phase will leave you astounded that you had it in you, you cannot help but grow as a person by going through this experience with the right attitude. you may want to study, get a job, learn a new skill.
- New friends / relationships – although scarey it can be exciting to meet new people, through clubs (art, gardening, craft) friendship sites, play groups with your kids. Surround yourself with supportive people – not the ones that want to talk about your ex all the time, who say ‘what a shame’ or ‘aren’t you over it by now’.
- Self confidence – you will learn and discover so much about yourself as you let go of what was and begin to embrace what can be. Even if divorce was not your idea, you can learn to be confident within yourself and accept yourself as you are now and the direction in which you are headed – forward.
- Courage and strength – you will face aspects of yourself that are painful, you will accept your part in both the success and the ending of your relationship, you will be stronger as a result of facing the truth.
- Embracing life, looking forward to the future – there is life after divorce – it might not be right away, as there’s a grieving, letting go process, getting to know who you are now and beginning to rebuild a life for yourself. There is untangling financially, one of you will be moving out, there may be children to consider, there are details to be taken care of as you separate your lives.
Accepting this is a very challenging phase of your life, ending a relationship. It is also the beginning of a new chapter for you. There may be a mixture of emotions, yet you are dealing with it, being mature and looking forward to enjoying your new journey the best way you can.
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